ACTIVATE YOUR ATTRACTION POWER
By: Peta Heskell
(c) Jan 2005
www.attractionacademy.com 

“Reality is not that you are weak and dream of becoming strong, poor and dream of becoming rich, alone and dream of having friends, but that you're already strong, rich, and among friends, yet at times, dream that you are not.” TUT – Notes from the Universe

Attraction is the art of dreaming into reality the potential that already exists inside you and sending out the signals that draw to you everything that is a match and fit for who you REALLY are.

You can realise your dreams and attract the right things into your life. When you go inside and accept and honour your enormous potential, anything is possible. Believe this and you’re halfway there.

• What dreams do have? 
• What would it be like to attract into your life people and opportunities that are perfect match and fit for you?
• What’s the secret of those people who seem to attract the right relationships, opportunities, work, and friends into their life in a seemingly effortless way?

Let us put aside for a moment the concept of physical beauty. Our belief that ‘physical ‘beauty’ as we define it isthe only form of attractant is outmoded. It is based on an ancient programme, which defines the qualities deemeduseful to produce strong children. What I’m talking about is a much more powerful form of attraction that comes from inside. 

Each thought you have creates a change in your cellular structure. When you think negative thoughts your immune system is weakened. When you think positive thoughts and smile and laugh, your immune system is boosted. Your body reflects all these thoughts. Grumpy faces come from grumpy thoughts. Happy faces are formed by happy thoughts. Be very aware of the power of your thoughts and the body language they generate. 

Your thoughts and beliefs about what’s possible or not have attracted what’s in your life right now. If it’s not what you wanted, that’s because you are not, YET, in tune with what’s really wonderful and right for you and you’ve accidentally attracted stuff that isn’t right for you. That’s OK because you can turn it around. So, knowing that, let’s look at how to attract the RIGHT stuff. 

Everything happens for a reason and it’s perfect the way it is

One of the biggest secrets of attraction is not that magic things always happen, but that whatever happens, you can find a way of seeing it in a positive light. You have to believe that no matter what happens, it’s ALWAYS OK. And you have to be able to let go of the past, immediately it happens, and ask yourself ‘What’s next’.

Earlier this year I discovered that my boyfriend had started to make overtures to another woman. At first I was horrified, and as I worked out what was going on, over the months that ensured, I realised that he was not the true match and fit for me in many ways. I’d built up this cosy relationship because it was like an old pair of slippers. We’d jogged along and suited each others lives. He was good looking, intelligent, enjoyed the limelight and was a great accessory for the Flirt Coach! 

Now that we’ve been apart for 8 months, I feel a tremendous sense of freedom and possibility. Life goes on and new vistas open out to me all the time.

I have travelled all over the world and learnt so much. I have generated a great idea for a novel and flirted with lots of men. AND for someone who’d not been without a partner for 25 years, I was really enjoying being alone.. and connecting with all kinds of new people. I can honestly say it was the best thing that ever happened to me this year! 

Sometimes we mistakenly believe that what we have is what we want and sometimes we think we want what isn’t right for us and sometimes we think that what we have is all we can get.. That’s BS. Anything is possible…and before you say ‘Brad Pitt’ or Angelina Jolie – is that REALLY what you want? I suspect not, 

The next man I attract won’t be ‘arm candy’ but someone with whom I have a deep spiritual connection and who is in tune with who I am and the work I do… and I know he will come in when the time is right.

Let me ask you before we go any further – 

What do you want?

Ask yourself again and notice your reactions.

What came up for you as you considered that question? Did you for a moment begin to experience a ‘dream’, which seemed somehow out of grasp or ‘faraway’. Did you then come up with all the reasons why you can’t have it or begin to focus on your problems? Relax. This is a common reaction.

Sadly, most of us are not trained from birth to tune into who we really are! Parents, teachers, peers, the media and everyone who interacts with us as we grow try to shape us into how they think the world wants us to be. This doesn’t always fit with our unique talents and desires. 

What would it be like if you were able to get in touch with who you really are at your best displaying all your uniquely wonderful behaviours and quirks and utilising to the full your natural abilities and talents, and at the same time having a sense of fulfilling your unique, niche in the world and attracting partners and lovers who are a true match and fit for you? 

Like that what’s possible for you? 

If you’re anything like me, you can categorise yourself into loads of label-like definitions. Woman, British, white, blonde, over 50, spiritual, coach, writer, ex-smoker.. How many labels do you have? 

Joseph Campbell – the great mythologist and philosopher, calls these labels ‘the… costumes we wear for a time on the stage of the world’. They are due to accidents of geography, birth-date and income. Campbell asks ‘What is the core of you’? What is the basic character of your being? 

In the attraction ‘game’ you get back a reaction to what you transmit. There’s often a reason why you attracted the things you don’t like. If you have a domineering partner, were you transmitting needy or weak signals? If you are disappointed with someone or not happy in your job did you say to yourself ‘that’s all I can expect’? 

One friend of mine said that she picked her husband over another man because she thought her husband was all she could get. It was a mistake that took over her life for 25 years. When she came to her senses it wasn’t easy.. but now she’s living with a man who is perfect for her.. and one she realised she could have and went for.

So, how do you activate your attraction power? 

1. BE YOU AT YOUR BEST 
If you’re not living from the basic true character of your being, then you won’t attract stuff that’ matches that character. It's simple common sense. 


Get a feel of the real you 

Take a moment or two to become fully aware of your body. Start with the top of your head and run your attention down your body slowly. Sense each part of your body slowly putting your attention on it. Include the organs inside. Feel your heart pumping and the blood running through your veins. Notice your lungs expanding outwards and to the side as you breathe in and out. Continue down your body noticing the skeletal structure and the muscles. Be aware of your posture and any muscles that are unnaturally contracted, particularly in your lower back. Notice any tension and adjust your body accordingly. And finally feel your feet flat on the floor. 

Ask yourself how you are when you are amazing, extraordinary.. and notice where the feelings come in your body. Focus on your breathing and the sense of yourself during those moments when you taste that amazing feeling and hold on to it.. allow it to run through your body…Notice your body.. all the way down. Do this often and get a deep feel for the real you. 

Imagine that this is the essence of you and that it’s safe inside, protected by a core of steel. Like this you can let yourself out, open to others because nothing can penetrate the casing and taint the core of who you are.

This is part of the work I do with people in private sessions and I can only offer you a taster of it here. I get them to access how they are when they are ‘extraordinary’ and feed back to them how their body displays that, so they can learn the form and sequence of their own positive body language and practice the sequence. It’s like a deportment exercise except that it’s devised from your own personal sequence of bestness.

2. GET CONNECTED

People who attract the right things into their life are aware of their effect on other people and they feel a sense of connection to everyone and everything around them. They know that when they transmit who they are, it gets picked up by the appropriate people to help them on their path.

To enrich this sense of connection you can play this game. 

Giving out the good feelings
Wake up and get a sense of how you are at your best. Then resolve to hold good feelings throughout the day for everyone no matter what happens. As you encounter people remind yourself that like you, they have pain and sorrow, joy and desire and that in their own way they are doing the best they can, even if it isn’t what you want. Send them a little bit of love. Give freely of your smiles. And just decide that whatever happens it’s OK. And if people behave in a hostile way, accept that it’s their stuff and wish them well. Say to yourself ‘they are still learning as I am’. 

Lock onto your purpose star

When you have a strong sense of who you are and of your connection to the world, your awareness of what’s right for you becomes sharpened. Don’t be surprised if you get a sense of what you naturally have to be doing. It’s as if there’s a purpose star out there, shining just for you and calling you to follow the path it’s illuminating for you..

Like this, you begin to attract things that are more in line with your purpose and who you are… And the clearer you get a sense of this, the more you’ll notice it happening.

3. ACTIVATE YOUR ATTRACTION 
When you join a gym a trainer usually shows you how all the equipment works while you have a quick try out. You do not leave that introductory session with a six-pack or a trim waist, you leave knowing what you have to do to get it. And you only get it if you continue to do the exercises.

En-Liven your Dream
As you spend time each day accessing the real you and feeling connected and noticing how your body feels you will become more aware of the ‘guidance’ of your purpose star. It becomes a compass for all that you do.

Think of something you really want… 

Stand or sit in a way that you feel comfortable. Become very aware of what it is that you want. Allow yourself to slide into the experience of your dream, feel it as if it is already yours… insinuating itself into your blood, pumping deep inside, washing around you, waiting to be unleashed. As you do this, focus your mind on the area just below your navel, the centre of creative and sexual energy. Imagine the energy welling up down there.. in that nice kind of way, and then sense it filling your entire body, activating you into your dream… 

Create your Attraction Template
A few years ago, I wrote down a few thoughts about the kind of place I’d like to live in. I always had in mind that I would be in some warm place, where I would be able to write novels and still do my coaching and empowerment work. 

I modified that wish because I didn’t see myself owning a place and I didn’t want to live in it full time. I wrote ‘I will have ACCESS TO somewhere warm by the sea for at least 3 months of the year’. 

Next week I’m off for one of my regular visits to my friends home in one of the most beautiful bays in St Lucia in the Caribbean. They’ve opened a resort there and I’ve helped them create a program of courses and coaching. I’ve an open invitation to live there, stay for months at a time or just visit when I want. And it’s exactly what I wanted – no responsibility, no maintenance costs.. just ACCESS. Be very careful with how you word what you want. It WILL come true.

Decide what it is that you want to attract. Only work on one thing at a time.

Write down at the top of a page what it is that you want to attract. Then make a list of features or qualities you are looking for. Keep going and let it flow. When you’re done go down the list checking how YOU match up to these features and qualities. If you want a manager who respects you, how respectful are you of other people. If you want a partner who makes you laugh, check out your own sense of humour. If you want a home with a big garden, ask yourself whether you EXPECT to get what you want. If the two don’t match, the next question to ask is

‘What has to happen for me to be like this? or ‘What has to happen for this to be true?’

Your answers will lead you to the next stage. Building up your inner self. You might want to take a course, or read my book – Flirt Coach’s Secrets of Attraction by Element Books [Harper Collins]. All sorts of things will come to mind. Once begun this is a life-long activity. You are a work in progress… It is now your choice how you use what you have. And as you do, notice the changes in what and who you begin to attract.


Peta Heskell is a life guide, simple philosopher, course leader, facilitator and writer… She runs regular flirting and attraction courses from the UK  Attraction Academy and sees private clients as a MythoSelf ® licensed and certified facilitator. She is author of four books the latest of which is ‘Flirt Coach’s Guide to The Secrets of Attraction’.

Her website is www.attractionacademy.com  and she can be reached at peta@attractionacademy.com



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